Dating during marriage seperation
There’s a certain selfish, perhaps self-indulgent quality to this.
Of course this kind of emotional arrangement can get pretty complicated when her son’s wife is trying to get her mother-in-law’s ‘love.’ A lot of people are psychologically immature when they get married and try to compensate for what they didn’t get in childhood (love) now from their spouse’s family. Problem is, it’s bound to be disappointing when your mother-in-law is narcissistic.You married a man who has not yet separated emotionally from his mother. One very obvious sign is she (mother) will be trying to control her son, you, your marriage up close and from a distance, not long after you’ve married her son.The message to you, his wife (or lover, if you want to drop the married part) is, you can marry my son but I stay number one in his emotional life. The problem is, your husband has not yet left his mother. If you don’t leave your mother you don’t have the emotional space to be truly married.It’s healthier to heal the hurt as loss and learn how to make the best life for yourself with mature forms of love as an adult person.The son’s efforts to ‘make peace’ between his wife and his mother while walking the ‘line’ between them is quite demanding.
We are supposed to sink that love we have inside into our own lives.